Giving thanks for peace

Loud voices are claiming that peace is impossible, that peace agreements don’t last, and that there will always be war. War profiteers may scoff at the feasibility of peace but here are some examples of lasting peace for which we can be thankful.

Thanksgiving Square Beacon symbolizing regeneration, reconciliation, peace, and aspiration
Thanksgiving Square Beacon symbolizing regeneration, reconciliation, peace, and aspiration. Photo by David Baird, used under CC Attribution-Share Alike 2.0 license.

The Webster-Ashburton Treaty, 1842: The U.K. and U.S. settled boundary disputes remaining from the Treaty of Paris (which concluded the Revolutionary War) and ended the (non-violent) Aroostok War over Maine’s border. The Treaty produced what became the longest (still) undefended border in the world.

Treaty of the Triple Alliance, 1876: At the end of a long and bloody war, the Triple Alliance (Argentina, Brazil, and Uruguay) wanted to divide up large portions of the defeated Paraguay. U.S. President Rutherford B. Hayes, playing a positive role that might amaze today’s world, was asked to arbitrate a dispute over Paraguay’s final borders. His ruling that a contested area remain with Paraguay prevailed without further warfare.

Dissolution of the Norway-Sweden Union, 1905: This nugget is not a treaty but a non-violent peace settlement to a threatened war. Norwegian feelings favoring full independence from Sweden were so high in 1905 that Norway assembled an army to fight Sweden. Cooler heads prevailed and both sides agreed to go to a Court of Arbitration at The Hague instead. The result: no war and Norway achieved its full independence.

Paris Peace Treaties, 1947: Although some of the victorious Allies (particularly the U.S. and U.K.) have been extensively involved in warfare since the end of WWII, it is not with their former enemies, the Axis Powers. Indeed, that peace agreement has been so successful that a recent U.S. President felt compelled to invent a new “Axis” (“of evil”).

Michael Corgan and Kathie Malley-Morrison

Arms for children

By guest author Luciana Karine de Souza

What does a society do when its children kill? This question became intensely personal in Brazil with the recent shooting death of a college student in São Paulo. The victim was 19 years old; the shooter was 17.

Graffiti boy with gun
Seattle graffiti by bartleby78. Used under CC Attribution 2.0 Generic license.

Child and adolescent psychologists teach us that emotional stability, autonomy, and independence come with time and flourish when children develop secure attachments to the adults who care for them. But what happens when the adults providing children and adolescents with reciprocity, sensibility, monitoring, and so on, do so not for a humane education, but for crime education?

In today’s world, adolescents, and even younger children, are often introduced to guns early and taught how to engage in crime, drug trafficking, robbery, kidnapping, and even planned assassination. These firearms can provide not only money, but also prestige, attention, guidance, safety, and, in a way, some sort of education (how to be brave and strong when shooting, how to be firm and clear when confronting).

When we study and teach the concept of attachment, we focus on the positive roles of reciprocity, sensibility, safety, proximity, and attention in child development. To promote strong and secure attachment, we try to give our children love, embrace them with warmth, and surround them with our dedication. We offer them our arms and a safe haven. We strive to protect them, educate them, listen to them, and learn with them.

These arms, the arms of love, are the arms our children and adolescents need: arms to embrace them, safe and fulfilling arms, arms that protect them from violence, war, and hate. Not arms that kill. Not arms that fill the gap left by weak attachments. Arms that make them want to live and to allow to live. No arms should be stronger.

Luciana Karine de Souza is a full professor at Federal University of Minas Gerais, Brazil. Her teaching and research involve personality and social development in psychology, education, and leisure.

Peace of mind, piece of heart

By guest author Luciana Karine de Souza

When we hear about peace we typically think of wars, violence, terrorism, and such, but psychologists, philosophers, and others also pursue understanding of the factors leading to and endangering peace of mind.

Kiss nightclub fire location
Santa Maria nightclub fire location. © OpenStreetMap contributors. Data available under the Open Database License; cartography is licensed as CC-BY-SA. See http://www.openstreetmap.org/copyright.

I live approximately 286 km (177 miles) from the city of Santa Maria, Brazil, scene of the tragic nightclub fire that killed over 200 people in January. I know the city and I know the Federal University of Santa Maria (UFSM).

Most of the victims of the fire were from UFSM. They were there in mid-summer (temperatures near 104F) because for many months last year, professors had gone on strike for better career plans and salary.

Thus many victims were in Santa Maria taking classes, studying, and preparing themselves for a future they will never have.

Should I feel relief at not knowing anyone related to this catastrophe? Should I sigh and thank the Universe that it did not affect anyone I know? Should I be thankful for life, and family, and friends, and all things good I still have, none of them affected?

For many like me, happiness at being spared does not happen. After such a tragedy, it is very, very difficult to find peace of mind. The mind “feels” strong energy waves throughout the day, waves filled of lifting souls asking why, why do we close our eyes to the need to prevent such tragedies.

For now it is very hard to find peace of mind, mostly because anyone who felt in any way connected to what happened in Santa Maria lost a piece of their hearts.

Every day around the world, people die dreadful deaths, preventable deaths, and the people touched by these deaths lose a piece of their hearts and their peace of mind.

Why do we still believe we can beat death, fire, and terror, and ignore laws and regulations, investment in prevention, safety measures, and so on? And when will we learn that all lives matter?

Luciana Karine de Souza is a full professor at Federal University of Minas Gerais, Brazil. Her teaching and research involves personality and social development in psychology, education and leisure.